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The remedy for the woman who holds everything in
Dr. Jami West, DC
Doctor of Chiropractic · Functional Medicine · Classical Homeopath
Educational Disclaimer: This article is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease or health condition. Homeopathic remedies are not FDA-evaluated for the treatment of any condition. Always consult a qualified healthcare provider before beginning any new health practice.
She is the one who holds it together.
In a crisis, she is the calm one. When everyone else falls apart, she is the one making the phone calls, handling the logistics, keeping the children steady. She does not cry in front of others — not because she doesn't feel things deeply, but because she learned, somewhere in her history, that her feelings were too much, or not welcome, or simply not safe.
She has a wall. It is not visible from the outside — she is warm, capable, and genuinely caring. But there is a part of her that is sealed off. A part that grieves privately, that longs privately, that carries privately the weight of everything she has never been able to say.
This is the Natrum Muriaticum picture. And it is one of the most common constitutional types I see in women.
Natrum Muriaticum is made from sodium chloride — common table salt. It has a particular affinity for the emotional life of the person who has experienced loss, grief, or betrayal that was never fully processed.
Salt, in the body, regulates fluid balance — what is held in and what is released. The Natrum Muriaticum person has a profound difficulty releasing. She holds her grief in. She holds her tears in. She holds her needs in. She holds her anger in. And over time, this holding has consequences.
Emotionally: Reserved, self-contained, and deeply private. She is sensitive to criticism and perceived rejection. She dwells on past hurts. She is worse from consolation: when someone tries to comfort her, she pulls away or becomes more upset. She cries alone.
Physically: Headaches (often described as hammering, worse in the morning or from sun exposure), cold sores or herpes outbreaks triggered by grief or stress, dry skin and mucous membranes, craving for salt, irregular or suppressed menstrual cycles, low back pain.
Modalities: Worse from heat (especially sun), worse from consolation, worse from noise and music. Better from fresh air, better from being alone.
The Natrum Muriaticum state is almost always rooted in unprocessed grief — the grief of a specific loss, or the accumulated grief of a childhood in which the child's emotional needs were consistently unmet. The child who learned that her feelings were too much. The child who was told to stop crying. The child who had to be strong because the adults around her were not.
When a woman receives a well-chosen dose of Natrum Mur, something often shifts in the emotional layer first. She may find herself crying — really crying — for the first time in years. She may find that old grief surfaces and moves through. She may find that the wall begins, slowly, to soften.
You have been holding it together for a long time. You are allowed to let someone help you.
— Dr. Jami West
This post is for educational purposes only and does not constitute medical advice.
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